Finding the positives in your failures

Measurable success seems to be everything in today's professional sphere, but it's often through failing that we learn the most important lessons.

If things aren't quite going your way right now, we're here to shed some perspective on things and help you find the positives in your failures.

Everything's subjective

Just because you didn't reach your original goal, it doesn't make you a failure. Failing is a matter of opinion and recognising what you HAVE achieved is sometimes worth more than explicit success. If you define success as a final goal and not the culmination of a process, you'll never grow beyond a job title and will eventually be overtaken by the ones who needed a bigger run up to make the final hurdle.

Learn from your mistakes

Now I know it's the ultimate cliche, but you really should be looking to learn from your mistakes if failure is constantly slapping you in the face like a Monty Python pilchard. Nobody wants to shine the spotlight on their shortcomings but only by identifying the causes of those failures can we ensure that we don't relive them. Failure gives us space to re-evaluate our position and ensure that we go on to be successful in the future. 

Failure puts things into perspective

Failure is a great value changer and helps us realise what really is important to us. If you find you weren't too downhearted about being overlooked for that promotion, then perhaps it didn't matter to you that much in the first place. You may even find that getting that promotion could lead to more stress, longer hours and less time with family. Would you still consider this a success?


You can't appreciate the highs without the lows

Nothing enables you to appreciate the victories in life more than having experienced those crushing defeats. It might be little consolation as you're opening another rejection email, but progress will feel all the more sweeter knowing the challenges you've faced to get there. Conversely, these lows will allow you to keep your success in perspective and prepare you for the next inevitable (sorry) disappointment. 


Failing is part of the process

As we toil away at the bottom of the ladder, it's easy to think that the inherently successful must have been born under a shooting star whilst clutching a four leaf clover and wearing horseshoe stilettos. Well some, maybe, but the majority of successful people failed hundreds of times before getting to the top. Failing is just part of the process and will best shape your plans for eventually getting to where you want to be. 

As Thomas Edison once said, "I have not failed, I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."


You might find a new path

Though you may be well travelled down a certain path, a 'no entry' sign could take you onto a more scenic (and prosperous) trail that you never even knew existed. Okay, so it's a cheesy analogy, but it's true that barriers to your current goal can present unforeseen opportunities that would otherwise have passed you by. So next time you're stopped from reaching your destination, just see it is as an exciting fork in the road that could lead to better things. 


I hate to break it to you but failure is just a part of life; you'll have failed in the past and you WILL fail again in the future. It's how you react to these disappointments that will shape your future and finding the positives in your failures is what's most likely to eventually lead you to your version of success.